Don’t expect Rainbow Rotella to follow in her famous mama’s footsteps.
The Girls Next Door alum, 35, says her 2-year-old daughter has never been associated with her famous ex-boyfriend Hugh Hefner.
“Absolutely not,” she said. “When I left the mansion we were cordial for a while, but eventually I opened my eyes to what kind of person he was and we haven’t talked for years. [Parenting is] not something he would be involved in. There are others who have brought their babies to the mansions after they were born, but it’s not something I would do.”
Now married to entrepreneur Pasquale Rotella, Holly says she would “not be okay” with her daughter posing nude in Playboy.
“I would not be okay with it,” she shared. “When she is an adult, she will be able to do what she wants, but from day one I’ve tried to raise her to know she has value, her body parts have value, and she doesn’t have to do something cheap or tawdry to get attention. If she wanted to [be a Bunny] — and God forbid she did — I would tell her my whole experience with it and I’d be honest that it wasn’t what I thought it would be.”
The mom-of-one is joining forces with Yahoo! for the online movement #NoShameParenting.
“I get a lot of judgment for my past,” she shared. “When you are young and from a small town and seduced by fame and glamour, you let a lot of your values slide.”
She went on to talk about the ongoing ‘Mommy Wars.”
“I think every mom feels judged these days,” Holly shared. “Somewhere along the line, parenting got really competitive. I get a lot of it on Instagram. I can’t post any picture of my daughter without someone commenting that I’m not being a good mom. Like, recently I posted a picture of her eating an In-N-Out burger, and I mentioned in the caption that we were on a road trip so this was a special treat. Everyone weighed in — either ‘you shouldn’t make that a treat, it should be all the time,’ or ‘you feed your kid too much, in every picture she’s always eating’ or ‘your kid’s fat.’ It’s insane.”
She added: “With my friends, unless they ask for advice, I try to stay out of it. The second I had Rainbow my mommy instincts kicked in, and the thing that annoyed me more than anything is when people gave me advice that was unsolicited.”
How does she handle all the judgment?
“Honestly, it turns me off so much that I just try to steer clear of it,” Holly shared. “Most of the people I’m close with now don’t do that. I take Rainbow to things like Gymboree or a play area near where we live in L.A., and most of the moms I meet that I bond with are really nonjudgmental. They stick to their own business and aren’t micromanaging what other people do. But they’ll tell me about playgroups they are in, and it’s like hearing horror stories. Other moms can be so judgmental.”
She went on to talk about adding to her family-of-three.
“I feel more pressure from my husband!” she said of having more kids. “We definitely want more kids and I think it will happen next year. Our immediate plan was to have another baby before Rainbow turned 2 — I didn’t want her to remember being an only child, because I didn’t want her to get spoiled, but it didn’t work out that way. Now I’m glad we waited a little bit longer. Rainbow is potty-trained, so we won’t have to do the two-diaper thing, which is nice. You realize when you become a mom how valuable your time is, and it’s been great to have these 2.5 years to really get to know Rainbow.”